Peanut Butter and Jelly

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Hello. Back for episode four. So today we're going to be doing a collaboration. Finally we're going to be doing one of these. And introduce yourself. [00:00:13] Speaker B: It's Graham. [00:00:16] Speaker A: This, this is Grant here. Graham, tell us a little bit about yourself. [00:00:23] Speaker B: Am I allowed to say where I live? I live in the Pacific Northwest. [00:00:30] Speaker A: There you go. That works. [00:00:32] Speaker B: I think I've said before I like swimming. I've known Jaden since kindergarten. [00:00:38] Speaker A: It's been a while. [00:00:40] Speaker B: I seen this kid every single day from June to. Or August to June for the past 10 years. It's been a journey. [00:00:58] Speaker A: Yeah, it's kind of. It's kind of crazy actually. Yeah, I have. I've literally seen this guy like a lot. A lot. Because I mean, with school. I've gone to school with him since we were four. Four or five years old. Kindergarten. I was six, but yeah, he was six. He's an old dude. And I mean, yeah, we've seen each other pretty much. I mean, every single day at school and then what, summer? But we gotta see each other. Well, at least early on we'd see each other at church. So every Saturday. But here. We'll edit this out. Yo. Mild little. Some casual freshman at the dorm. Yeah, we're at the. I think we're gonna talk right. All this hour, whatever. But I'm just talking about. [00:01:59] Speaker B: We've known each other for a while. [00:02:01] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. I've known Graham for just like ever. If you haven't even mind. You have better responses. Yeah, I know Graham for forever. I mean we go to church like literally at least once a week, at least early on. I mean there's obviously times we want to see each other because when I go to church or when I school, obviously, but they just growing up with this dude. So I think we're just gonna. I don't know, we're kind of trying to figure out as we go we're going to talk about more but I think for a base idea. So we both go to this boarding school and I think we're just gonna talk about that and just our perspective on boarding school as a whole and just how we feel about it. So I think I'll just let you kind of. I don't know. What do you think, Graham? Boarding school? [00:02:53] Speaker B: I think it's definitely cool because you have the extension perspective. Yeah, I have the full ride or not full ride, but boarding experience perspective. [00:03:02] Speaker A: Yeah. He goes here. So he like live. Lives here. I think I've told in previous episodes I do the weird extension thing when I'm Monday online School Friday, online school, then here. Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. But, yeah, this dude, he's here all the time. Yeah. [00:03:17] Speaker B: At some point I hadn't gone home for, like, three months. That was not. [00:03:21] Speaker A: Yeah, that's crazy. [00:03:22] Speaker B: I was getting very angry at a lot of people just because I'd been here so long. [00:03:29] Speaker A: Yeah. That's kind of an interesting part of. I think. I guess we'll kind of get to that a little bit more. But just boarding school, how close you get with people, which can be definitely. I mean, it's good. But when you spend so much time with kids your age and you learn a lot. Yeah. [00:03:44] Speaker B: You learn a lot about how each other are, especially at home, like, because whenever you go home, you can just relax. But whenever you're at a boarding school, at some point, you can't always be putting your best step forward. So you see how people, like, actually are, like, real. [00:04:01] Speaker A: Real character, actually. No way. I think that's. I mean, there's obviously a lot of differences between boarding school and just, like, normal public school or private or whatever you're doing. But at least how, like, we're saying close you get to people, but then just really seeing, like, how they're. I mean, it kind of shows. Obviously, I'm not here all the time, but you literally, what you're saying, their home life and how they've been raised, and you just, like, see that in everybody. Definitely. I think both your aspects. [00:04:29] Speaker B: I think the showers definitely bring people. [00:04:32] Speaker A: Yeah. Closer together. It's not weird or anything. I mean, it's. [00:04:41] Speaker B: So basically, yeah, the showers are a social event. There are curtains, but no one uses them. [00:04:48] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:04:48] Speaker B: It's just a time that we can talk and it's just. It's fun to just hang out and stuff. [00:04:53] Speaker A: Obviously it sounds a little bit weird with a bunch of dudes. [00:04:55] Speaker B: It does sound weird, but everyone that comes here eventually does it because it's. It just doesn't become weird at some point. [00:05:02] Speaker A: There's just. I mean, early on. So we started, like, last year, freshman year. All of our first years. Like, the first. Or our first. Yeah. First years of the school. Like, was it. Was it two weeks in that? Like, the first two weeks. It took us about two weeks, which, I mean, obviously isn't even that long. [00:05:18] Speaker B: But when we first did it, when we first came out of our curtains, some kid came in. Shall not be named, but some kid came in and he was like, oh, shoot. And then ran out because he got scared. He was, like, definitely a shy. [00:05:33] Speaker A: Seen a bunch of naked guys. [00:05:35] Speaker B: Yeah. And then we all, like, jump back in our showers. It's pretty funny. [00:05:40] Speaker A: Yeah, I think just. I mean, I guess that's another aspect. I mean, not just with the showers, with the, like, comfort that you get with everybody. I mean, that it goes along with the closeness and, like, that whole thing. But, I mean, it's not really an experience you get, obviously, like, if you do, like, military or other stuff like that. Right. There's. [00:05:59] Speaker B: Well, I don't know. College. [00:06:01] Speaker A: Yeah, college. [00:06:01] Speaker B: But you have more freedom with college here. You're. You're here. [00:06:04] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:06:05] Speaker B: Like, you don't get to leave as much as you do with college. [00:06:08] Speaker A: Yeah. And I think I've had people say before that, like, your parent or, like, because I get asked all the time or whatever, I'm on. If I'm outside the school, like, where you go to school. Like, it's just some boarding school, you know, like, parents don't love you. [00:06:22] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. No, that's definitely what. That's definitely what people think. Or they're like, oh, so you're loaded. [00:06:26] Speaker A: Yeah. You're one of those. Yeah. You're one of those kids and they. [00:06:30] Speaker B: Expect you to be, like, insanely smart or something. [00:06:32] Speaker A: Yeah, that goes on, too. I mean, honestly, from what I've understood, the curriculum here, like, the actual schoolwork itself is more. Yeah. Compared to the public school system, it is on the higher. Like, I think I've been talking with. I don't think I can say his name. But yeah, the dude that I said in the second episode that climbed the water tower with. Or third or whatever, he go. He goes to public school. And from what I've understood, he's considering coming to this boarding school second semester. And, like, the actual school is not as, like. I don't know. It's just different, I think. I don't know. I mean, I've. I'm not gonna. I've never been to public school. Like, actually, like, been a student at public school. So I don't know. But there's, like, a basic understanding. The school here is a little bit more intense, and it's just a different environment, which, honestly, I think is pretty cool. [00:07:21] Speaker B: I like it. It's a lot. I feel like it's a lot better than normal school because especially the way the blocks work is that. [00:07:28] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:07:28] Speaker B: For example, on Mondays and Wednesdays, I don't have anything in the morning, so I can go to class at 10, 15, and so I can sleep in or do whatever I want in the morning, and then I get out of class in the evening and I can just go outside and play spike ball or something. And it's, like, a lot of fun, Especially just have breaks in the middle of the day. It's not just like class, class, class. Like, you actually get a break, and it's really, really nice. [00:07:52] Speaker A: Yeah. I think. I know that other schools do a block system like that, but it's definitely not the same with. You can literally just come back to your dorm, hang out with, like, your buddies, whatever, take a nap. It'll love everything. And just. I don't know. We do. I think I talked about spike ball before on this, but, like, especially it's really hot right now, so it's been like, in the middle, I think early on, there's more kids playing spike ball, but you go to your classes and you have free time, which is really cool. Go do spike ball. Go do literally whatever. To a certain extent, I guess. Yes. [00:08:25] Speaker B: But definitely there's freedom, but there's definitely a fence. [00:08:31] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:08:31] Speaker B: So you get to do a lot of stuff, but you also don't get to do a lot of. [00:08:37] Speaker A: Use a lot of stuff. [00:08:38] Speaker B: But I would say definitely worth it. But. No, but I definitely also know people that are, like, they hate it. So it really depends on who you are. And to be fair, my parents came to the school, my siblings have gone to this school, and so I was just. I grew up knowing I was gonna come here, and I was always really, really excited. [00:08:58] Speaker A: Yeah. So she. Because more with your siblings, you've been here before compared to other kids. This is their first time here meeting people, I think. Yeah. It does kind of depend on the personality type in a way. Not like it's only, like, extroverted people here or something like that. Because it's not. By any means. It's normal school in that case, but. Because I know. I know someone who was really excited about going here, and they came here and then stuff happened or whatever, but then they decided this was not for them. I don't know. I think it's. That's just kind of part of. It depends on who you are as a person, if this is something you're interested in. Because, I mean, it really is. Obviously, I can't even fully be talking because I'm. Yeah. [00:09:42] Speaker B: Making something. Making a podcast. [00:09:46] Speaker A: Am I disturbing you guys? Yeah, you're okay. Yeah. Damn it. I forgot that I just put basketball agent. But what was I saying? Dang it. I don't remember. Okay. Yeah. It's just interesting, I guess, all around, I think. Yeah. You went, like, grew up, like, with technology, you Were gonna go here, whatever. And yeah, like, you had been here before with your siblings, and compared to somebody who's just new dropping in and. Right. Personality type just depends on if you're gonna. I don't know. Yeah. [00:10:47] Speaker B: I mean, literally, for me, like, my parents hyped up the school, which. It's. It's worth it. It's lived up to the hype. It's just like. Like, just growing up knowing, like, oh, this is where you're gonna be. And it's a lot of fun. Like, it just. I anticipated it literally, like, ever since I was little. And, like, each of my siblings, one after one, would just disappear to school, and I'd be like, oh, my goodness, when is it gonna be my turn, dude? [00:11:10] Speaker A: Yeah. Oh, it's pretty. It's pretty cool. And it's actually interesting seeing all the. Like. I guess I don't know if family dynamics is the correct. Like, family dynamics is the correct term, but with. I know. I mean, my parents did not go here, but it's interesting seeing, like, families. Families who went here and siblings and, like, just parents. Like, I know a bunch of kids in at least our sophomore class. Like, I know your parents went here. Yeah. And, like, friends. Parents went here. And, like, it's cool their kids going here. It's not like, that's just important school in particular, but it's a small school, too. There's. I think. I know they've had 300 kids before, right. This year is like 260 or something like that. [00:11:52] Speaker B: 240. [00:11:53] Speaker A: 240. [00:11:54] Speaker B: Okay. [00:11:55] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:11:56] Speaker B: We definitely have ups and downs of students, and we're gonna look at it down right now, but, yeah, there's still a lot of people, but compared to a. Public schools are not nearly as. [00:12:05] Speaker A: Not even close. And maybe that's. [00:12:08] Speaker B: Honestly, I think that's better. [00:12:10] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:12:11] Speaker B: Because if we really had that many. [00:12:12] Speaker A: People, it'd be really. [00:12:15] Speaker B: That's a lot. [00:12:16] Speaker A: Like, it's like, the campus is big to a certain extent, but. Okay. I mean, like, compared to some, like, big public high school, it's not like. [00:12:29] Speaker B: I mean, it's big for 250 people. [00:12:32] Speaker A: Yeah, it's big. Yeah. [00:12:32] Speaker B: It's plenty of space. And a lot of people just go to their room and doom scroll reels and not go outside, which I think would make it a lot more fun if people were actually outside and visiting and doing stuff. And that's something that really annoys me, especially on the weekends, is that the culture is becoming. Everyone goes home on the weekends, and it's only Here during the school week. [00:12:50] Speaker A: I know. I mean me, but like, you know. Yeah, I try to stay the weekend. Especially this year. I've been. Last year I was. Not as much reasons for that. But I. I mean, I don't know. I didn't know if I was going to come back next year just with other stuff and we're going to see about next year. I talked about that. But at least with where my thought go. [00:13:14] Speaker B: Dang. [00:13:15] Speaker A: I actually forgot. Oh yeah, that's right. [00:13:23] Speaker B: Especially teacher dynamic. [00:13:25] Speaker A: Oh yeah. [00:13:25] Speaker B: You get to know your teachers on like a personal level and it's really cool. [00:13:29] Speaker A: Different. [00:13:30] Speaker B: It's like the teachers aren't literally just your teachers. Like they become your friends at some point if you're being the right kind of student and you're not like being rude. [00:13:38] Speaker A: It sounds like corny, right? But like actually because, I mean, all the staff, they live here, right? [00:13:45] Speaker B: They literally live across the road because. [00:13:48] Speaker A: We have campus and then where all the classes are and like there's grass and other stuff and then at the gym, gymnasium, just normal like school stuff. And then it's basically just across the road. Like across on the other side. It's just a neighborhood of houses right next to it. [00:14:05] Speaker B: Yeah, there's a bunch of houses and the staff live there. Although this school used to be a poor farm. [00:14:12] Speaker A: Oh yeah. [00:14:12] Speaker B: So basically people that were poor and had to work off their debt would come here and work and work and work basically until they died. And so staff housing is built on the cemetery actually always like whenever they dug down to find the foundations and stuff, they found bones and stuff. [00:14:28] Speaker A: Yeah, I've heard about that. [00:14:30] Speaker B: Okay, that sounds bad, but really cool school. [00:14:34] Speaker A: Yeah, we swear. It's actually a cool school. I know. I've heard like all sorts of stuff before on like the origins. On what like origin was with this facility. Like, obviously I've heard like insane asylum. I think I've understood. It actually was an asylum before. Right. Not in the same one, but like. [00:14:49] Speaker B: The poor farm was basically like it was a prison. It's basically a prison where people work until they've either worked after Dick or just how they died. [00:14:57] Speaker A: Yeah, it's been some. I don't even know. I've heard. Obviously you're gonna hear stories or there's been some never having up to school so much. [00:15:06] Speaker B: I mean, and then there's definitely teachers that like to make up stories for fun because. [00:15:09] Speaker A: Yeah, it's funny. [00:15:10] Speaker B: But yeah. [00:15:11] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:15:12] Speaker B: And like, honestly, I feel like bullying and like haziness stuff compared to. It's It's. Compared to a public school. Not even close. Like, you'll get, like, little something here and there. But, like, overall, you'll find your friend group. If you. If you really want to, you'll find your friend group. [00:15:29] Speaker A: Obviously there's a little stuff because, I mean, it's a school. [00:15:31] Speaker B: Right. [00:15:32] Speaker A: But compared to that, like, the environment, it's just way different. Like, just. I mean, we've already said with the teachers, it's not everybody dissing on all the teachers. I mean, obviously there's stuff. [00:15:45] Speaker B: Yeah, definitely. There's teachers that people don't like. [00:15:47] Speaker A: Yeah, it's still that. But yeah, compared to. Yeah. What you're saying with the. The hazing and. I mean, there's. From what. Obviously, I'm not even here all the time, so it's a little bit different with me. But with kids being so close and that's kind of where it'll come from, just being, like, all the time together. And you just get annoyed with your friend group sometimes. [00:16:07] Speaker B: Yeah. They always say, do not room with your best friend. [00:16:09] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:16:10] Speaker B: Which is not what we did. And now I'm rooming with so and so and we're doing perfectly fine. There's definitely moments where I'm like, all right, you're annoying me a little bit right now. But if we talk about it, like, it'll all work out. [00:16:25] Speaker A: As long as you're emotionally and honestly, I think that's even okay. That's another benefit. I think we haven't really seen benefits, but just a boarding school. Just the. I mean, it's preparing. Like, you're living. Obviously you're not living on your own, but at least, like, it's getting out of your comfort zone. 100. Even if you're like, I mean, all of us are first, whether we're introverted or extroverted or whatever your personality type is. I mean, it's getting out of your comfort zone to a certain extent. You're meeting new people. You're in it. No, I mean, it'll maybe a little bit different for you, but I know, like, you're in a new environment and it's just. I don't know. [00:17:02] Speaker B: Yeah. I will say sometimes there are some downsides, especially if something happens between you and a girl. [00:17:09] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. [00:17:09] Speaker B: Everything's on display. Everything knows what's happening, and everyone's going to be talking about it, which can be really annoying. Or if you have, like, a mature breakup and it's quiet, then it won't be that big of a deal. But a lot of times Everything you do, like, oh, did you see that person talking to that person? And I know that happens in public school, but instead of just like 50 or maybe not even 50, but instead of some people knowing at the public. [00:17:30] Speaker A: School, everyone knows it's whole relationships. That's another. And I'm sure it's probably not even. I think part of that comes with it being a small school. But especially like living together relationships. It's just different compared to. And I know a bunch of people like you meet here. You'll end up varying whether you. [00:17:48] Speaker B: I mean, that's what my parents did. [00:17:49] Speaker A: Yeah. Like that's what. It's kind of what happens whether you date them or not or whatever. Just. I mean, you get to know them well. [00:17:56] Speaker B: And another thing about being here is that I'm not saying I like being away from my parents, but you get to be your own person. [00:18:04] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:18:05] Speaker B: Like, it's honestly like a new start if, like, if you were someone that no one really liked at your other school, if you come here and like no one knows you, it's a new start for you. [00:18:16] Speaker A: So. Yeah. Kind of hinting out almost. No. With immature thing. But it like builds up your character being. Obviously here's. There's restrictions and whatever else, but I mean it kind of just builds up your. Your character, I guess. I think. [00:18:34] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. No, I. I definitely think it's worth it. I like it a lot. I've matured a lot since I've been here. Even just a year that I've been here. Like, because you kind of have to find out everything on your own. [00:18:47] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:18:47] Speaker B: Which is good. But you can also just call your parents if you need them and. Okay. It's just, it's really good. Especially as a Christian. It definitely grows your faith. If you're looking for a spiritual change, you'll find it, but they won't like force you to have it. Yeah, but they give you the options. [00:19:06] Speaker A: It's like a certain extent. Like if you're here on the weekends, if like they make you go to. [00:19:09] Speaker B: Yeah, but it's. It's a Christian school. Like what do you expect? It's Adventist. Like, like if you're. If you're signing up for the school and you're paying for it, you should expect to be going to Mary Distance. But like, other than that, like, you don't have to do that much. Our, our Bible teachers, there are some. The best people we ever meet because they're not like the. Well, they're direct. They'll be open with you. You can Tell them anything. They'll talk about any topic. Literally any topic. Like. [00:19:40] Speaker A: Yeah, anything. [00:19:41] Speaker B: Literally anything they will talk to you about. And they have you. They're not afraid to bring anything up. And it's good because they're open and direct. They don't have any of the fluff and they're willing to debate and maturely and, like. [00:19:54] Speaker A: And they actually care. [00:19:55] Speaker B: They actually care about you. And no matter. Literally, no matter who you are, they're gonna talk to you. If you're, like, literally a Satanist and you, like. Like, I don't know, they're gonna. They're gonna love you and they're gonna talk to you and they're gonna treat you literally like everyone else. [00:20:10] Speaker A: Yeah. Really shows, like. I don't know. But you really do get that religious, whether. I don't know. I mean, I don't even. You might not even be looking for that. But really just seeing people who are like that, who believe that, it makes you want to be like that. [00:20:26] Speaker B: In a sense, that's the way I believe faith should be. [00:20:29] Speaker A: Yeah. Just by action. [00:20:31] Speaker B: Not literally. [00:20:32] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:20:32] Speaker B: Their actions are speaking, like. And they show that. This really, really sounds corny, but it shows that you can have a relationship with Jesus and it can be cool. Like, it can be a whole thing. That sounds really, really corny, but, like, it's legit. I know that's not the best wording for it, but, like, it did. Having a relationship with God doesn't have to be like a cringy thing. [00:20:54] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:20:57] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:20:58] Speaker A: The religious aspect, that's really cool part about this place. I mean, obviously, I don't think that not all boarding schools are in the. Have that. But especially being in that closed environment where you can grow that, whether you're starting from zero or starting. Like, you've already had some experience with religion, with Adventism is what it is here. It's just. You grow it and the people care a lot about you. I think I wanted to want to bring it back to the relationships for a second, because I can. Or touched on it. [00:21:26] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:21:26] Speaker A: But with just. Okay, so I. I've been with this girl for, like, it's the whole other thing. I don't really want to get into that, but I. It's been awesome and whatever, but I'm really. But what you were saying, everything you do is put on the business. This is a small environment, and you're all living with each other. Like, I don't even know. Like, correct me if I'm wrong, but, like, maybe not necessarily one shot, but if you mess up, it's especially you ask someone. [00:21:57] Speaker B: Let's say you ask one out on a date and you get rejected. Yeah, you're gonna hear about it smoked. But depending on who you are, it won't be that big of a deal. Like he'll be like, oh, dude, you got smoked. Or like it would be like, but it won't be like a big deal. Depending on how it went. If you both were mature about it. Like she was like, oh, sorry, I'm not looking today or whatever. Like, yeah, it'd be like, oh, this funny laugh. Like, oh, you. You got rejected. And then boom, it would move on. But then there's sometimes where. And I know this from not my personal experience, but someone very close to me, they had a breakup and a rumor spread around the entire school and families got involved and it was really, really bad. Like it was really messy, but it wasn't really. I mean, it was someone's fault, but it was just a stupid rumor that should have never been spread and it caused a lot of conflict that should have never happened. [00:22:51] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:22:51] Speaker B: All just cuz breakup and. [00:22:55] Speaker A: Yeah. That you don't really find that. I mean, I can't even like fully talk because I don't understand. Like, I've never been in public school. I've been going to private school since I was little. Yeah. And that's private school. Different from this. Like private boarding school, but with just break. Like it's not a big deal. Like it happens all the time or whatever. But especially if you're with someone for a bit and then rumors get spread really easily with only 240 people here. And then you're just. I don't know. [00:23:24] Speaker B: But eventually everything blows over. Yeah, like it will blow over. Like it seems like it's like, oh, this is me now. But it'll blow over and people will eventually forget about it and it just won't be as big of a deal. [00:23:38] Speaker A: It's definitely, I think with dating in particular, I know we had a conversation with another dude, or at least I was kind of just there and you were having a conversation with another guy about this. But it's a really big deal here almost from what I get. Which, I mean, I'm not saying dating isn't a big deal by any means, because I mean, like, you're taking that next step that you want to display your affection. Yeah, your affection. Not like physically or whatever, but like you, like, this person means a lot to you. You want to like it to be known. Your status that you are together. And it's a really. And I think what it really is here compared to just in a different environment, like, publish what. We keep saying that, like, you're, like, you're dating. It's not a big deal if it's over, like, two weeks or whatever. Once you're, like, dating some, you're, like, locked in with them, but it feels like almost that. [00:24:29] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:24:30] Speaker A: And especially with all. So we're both dudes or whatever. But all the girls are. I mean, it's like the same kind of with us. Like, all the guys are really close, but, like, if you told one lie about a dude, then the rest of the girls are going to like you. You stand no chance. Anybody else, too, Almost. I don't know. [00:24:47] Speaker B: Yeah, no, it's. It's a complicated thing. And I've actually recently talked to my Bible teacher a lot about dating. And the way he explains it is way better where he's like, dude, literally just ask them on a date. It doesn't have to be a big deal. It doesn't mean, like, ooh, I love you so much. It can just be, hey, I really want to get to know you. Can we go and talk sometime? And the problem with that being is that I feel like a lot of the girls at our school, at least since we're sophomores right now. Yeah, a lot of the girls aren't mature enough to have that yet. Where a date will be like, oh, my goodness, he's in love with me. Where, yes, it can be that. But if you specify like, hey, I really just want to get to know you. Could we go to the, the, the. [00:25:38] Speaker A: The. [00:25:38] Speaker B: The milkshake place? And like, it's just, like, it's just hard because something like that would be big deal because it's like, oh, did you hear that Marissa and James went out on a date? [00:25:52] Speaker A: And it gets spread. [00:25:54] Speaker B: Spread. None of those are real people, but went on a date and it's like, oh, my goodness. Oh, are they dating now? [00:26:00] Speaker A: And then, like, and maybe didn't. Like, maybe this day didn't go that well or something along those lines. And like, that's okay. Like, it wasn't meant. Yeah. But then you're like, put in this situation where it's like you two now, and. [00:26:12] Speaker B: Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, definitely. [00:26:17] Speaker A: Yeah, but. But back to, like, the good parts of boarding school. [00:26:21] Speaker B: I mean, and the dating thing isn't always happen. Like, there's always successful relationship, and there's always, I would say, successful breakups. Like, it's maybe, maybe once a year that a messy something happens. And it's like, oh, did you hear about this year? That. And it's a. It's a rare occurrence. Like you can date. Dating is realistic on campus. Like, it's realistic. Like, I'm not going to date someone that's not going to this school. [00:26:46] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:26:48] Speaker B: It's a realistic thing today on campus. It just. You have to do it right now. [00:26:52] Speaker A: There is some. Which I guess we didn't really still talk about that a little bit. But the physical aspect of like, dating, it's very. They're really, really strict on that hue compared to like anywhere else. Right. [00:27:06] Speaker B: Because in public school there's like sex before marriage. [00:27:11] Speaker A: Yeah. Quote unquote, no pda. Except it's not really that. I mean, obviously that's going to be a basic rule. Nobody wants to see him making out with dude. With the person in the hallway. But. [00:27:20] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:27:20] Speaker A: But like, like no hand holding here. [00:27:24] Speaker B: No hand holding. Which it seems like the way we talk about this, it seems really bad. But it's not actually that big of a deal. Like, if they see you holding hands, like, they'll be like, hey, can you guys be stopped? Or some teachers will ignore it. [00:27:37] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:27:37] Speaker B: Which I feel like a lot of teachers would just ignore it. But you just have to know the right time. [00:27:43] Speaker A: You just gotta understand this. [00:27:46] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:27:48] Speaker A: Then no, with the. There's like rules about hugging, like, three seconds. Which seems like. [00:27:53] Speaker B: Which no one's gonna. No staff member is gonna stand there, go, 1, 1, 2, 3. Like, it's just a relative. [00:27:59] Speaker A: Just don't make a baby. [00:28:01] Speaker B: Yeah. Pretty much. Just the thing is, don't make a baby. [00:28:04] Speaker A: Yeah. Which, I mean, it's pretty good. [00:28:07] Speaker B: And just don't make out with anyone. [00:28:10] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:28:11] Speaker B: Or if you are, you gotta be real sneaky. [00:28:14] Speaker A: You gotta be really sneaky. [00:28:16] Speaker B: But like the. There's something called the loop. And people walk and talk with whoever they're dating or they want to date. And like, that's chill. [00:28:26] Speaker A: Just go on a little. It's like just a little walk all the way. The loops around the entire campus just go on a little walk. [00:28:31] Speaker B: They're not anti dating. Like, there will be teachers that will drive you into town and let you go on a date. [00:28:36] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:28:37] Speaker B: Like, they're not anti dating. It's just they're really trying to prevent. [00:28:41] Speaker A: Like, any premarital sex. Which is very much. [00:28:44] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:28:45] Speaker A: Adventism as a whole. [00:28:46] Speaker B: Right. And even. Even if that did happen. No, they wouldn't. Like, if it happened on campus. [00:28:54] Speaker A: I know there's like expulsion. [00:28:56] Speaker B: It's but it's kind of complicated. [00:28:58] Speaker A: Yeah. I don't know. It's a whole process. I think I've heard a story about. Yeah. Yeah, I think there's a couple. But, you know. [00:29:05] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:29:07] Speaker A: But. Yeah, I guess this boarding school. [00:29:11] Speaker B: Boarding school. Except for. Definitely worth it. A lot of fun. [00:29:15] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:29:15] Speaker B: It's always entertaining. I'm almost never bored except for on weekends. Whenever people dare. [00:29:22] Speaker A: Those bums I don't know would leave the place. [00:29:25] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. But definitely worth it. [00:29:30] Speaker A: Yeah, I guess. Sorry. Just something else I just thought of dad with. You're kind of obviously not isolated from the world, which is where I've kind of found the extension program to be a little bit. So I still. Like I've talked about. I play volleyball outside of this. I do other. Like, whatever. I have other friends. Like, nobody else doesn't have other friends outside of this place. But it's kind of like. I mean, it is a full commitment. If you're gonna. Which is where I. I don't know. Next year, they don't allow it with, like, the extension. And you can still come here as a day student, which is just regular school, but they don't allow the extension program for whatever the. [00:30:09] Speaker B: Which is. [00:30:10] Speaker A: Yeah. Classes get more complicated. [00:30:12] Speaker B: And a senior, you should know, like, make up your mind, I want to be here. Or not. As a sophomore and freshman, it's like, yeah, I still miss my parents. My parents still miss me. When you reach that age, it's like, all right, you got to make your decision. [00:30:25] Speaker A: Two years. You gotta do the. The real deal now. [00:30:28] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:30:28] Speaker A: Yeah. Which obviously it's really expensive, which isn't. [00:30:32] Speaker B: It is. But if you want to come, there are definitely ways where you can get it down a significant amount. [00:30:39] Speaker A: Yeah, I know. I'm on scholarships. Even just for, like, extension, I mean. But it's. Still. Forgot how much it was this year, I think. I don't know if they rate the tuition, but is it between the, like 14,000, 16,000 for the program I'm doing. Yeah. [00:30:52] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:30:53] Speaker A: And then I know regular, like 26,000, 25, 25,000. Yeah. Which. [00:30:58] Speaker B: But kind of the longer you go here, the more discounts you get. And if you had siblings here, you. [00:31:03] Speaker A: Get more discounts if you go through church or whatever. More discount scholarships. Like, they're pretty. If you want to be here, like, you can be. There's not really too much. Obviously, you're probably like, work. And then you can work for people on campus, which goes into your tuition. [00:31:16] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. You can knock off seven grand from Doing that. [00:31:21] Speaker A: Which goes a long way if you like add up all the things and there's even people who will just pay for your entire thing. They want you to stay at Adventist education is the whole idea, which is cool. Especially with something. [00:31:32] Speaker B: I mean it's a good education. [00:31:33] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:31:34] Speaker B: Like there are definitely Adventists and Christians who ruin the name because there is definitely bad stuff that can happen in churches. [00:31:41] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:31:41] Speaker B: I'm not saying that doesn't happen. And I feel bad for the people that hear about that and that's their only experience because that's not what it's like and that's not what it's meant to be like. And no other aventus agree with that stuff. But we do live in a world. Listen. Where that stuff does happen. [00:31:56] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:31:57] Speaker B: And it's messed up. But not to say that anything like that isn't going to happen in a public school. [00:32:02] Speaker A: Yeah. So I don't know. Everything's sinful. It's not like it's some perfect environment here or whatever. [00:32:10] Speaker B: And it's not like it's not like ooh, paradise. Oh, everyone's perfect. [00:32:15] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:32:16] Speaker B: No one here is near perfect. [00:32:18] Speaker A: Not even close. But this, I mean, kind of start to wrap this up. We're getting pretty. [00:32:24] Speaker B: Pretty long. [00:32:25] Speaker A: Yeah, pretty long. Pretty long time. But we're just. But just kind of start wrapping it up. Boarding school. It's fun. Just overall it's a. I mean it's a good, it's a good time. There's ups and downs. But I think overall, especially with this place in general, the people here, awesome staff, awesome. Just group of people. The relationships that you build here, like for life, which is really cool. You don't get that in a lot of other things where you're gonna be like know these people. Obviously not like everybody here, but I know like my, my dad's girlfriend, still friends, like best friends with her old roommate. It's really cool stuff. Obviously you'll get that in college, but having that in high school is something really cool. Especially as you're still getting to know yourself. I mean obviously you are in height or in college too, but especially during that mid teenage years you can build relationships and find who you are. Really. [00:33:22] Speaker B: Yeah. Well. And another thing to add on to that is something Adventists love to say and if you end up being in the Adventist community for a while is that they love to say the Adventist world is very, very small. [00:33:34] Speaker A: Yes. [00:33:35] Speaker B: You will meet someone and you're like, wait, I know you from this random Adventist event that happened halfway across the Us. And, like, my parents will just be randomly in town someday, and they'll just recognize someone from school. For example, yesterday we had our school's lake day where we go to a camp on the lake, and we go and swim and go on boats. It's insanely fun. We're on our way back. I'm on asb, which is like, the school leadership. So we were the last ones out and the first ones there. And we're setting up stuff, and the person driving us back to the school, we asked him if we could stop and get ice cream. So we stopped and we got frozen yogurt. And whenever we parked up, we got out of the car. Random people just sitting there eating the ice cream. They're like, hey, we went to that school and. [00:34:17] Speaker A: Right. [00:34:17] Speaker B: And now we're married. Like, just literally, just random times. Like, Aventus world is small. People will be like, oh, oh. I went to that school. My bosses this year, I did landscaping. My bosses laid concrete at our school. Didn't know that until I went in for the interview. [00:34:35] Speaker A: So cool. [00:34:35] Speaker B: Like, the Adventist world is small, and it's just, like, insane to see you me. With that being said, though, your reputation matters. [00:34:46] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:34:46] Speaker B: You cannot be being rude and stuff. Like, you have to be. You have to be, like, putting an effort to actually be a good person or otherwise people are gonna remember you like, oh, that was the kid. [00:34:58] Speaker A: That kid. [00:35:00] Speaker B: Curse out the teachers in class and like, stuff like that. But it's not that hard to be a good kid. [00:35:06] Speaker A: Yeah, it's really not. And stuff like that goes a long way. And like, I mean, it's really cool. I feel like obviously you'll get that other things, but just having that, just knowing them from way back in the day and whatever, like, it's so random. Stuff like that will happen. I mean, what, like your work? Yeah, I know. Stuff like that happens with even. Just like my dad, he didn't go to this school, but Adventists just randomly, like, whatever it is. [00:35:31] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:35:32] Speaker A: I don't know. Okay, we. We'll start wrapping this up. Boarding school. Cool. [00:35:36] Speaker B: Cool. 10 out of 10 fun. Would recommend. Just make sure you tour the school beforehand. Yeah, there are definitely boarding schools out there, but it's, like, not worth it. [00:35:44] Speaker A: This place, though, pretty awesome. It's fun. So. Yeah. Wrap that up for episode four. This is. This is Graham. [00:35:53] Speaker B: Share it with your friends. [00:35:54] Speaker A: Share it with you. [00:35:55] Speaker B: Listen to it as you're going to sleep. I know. [00:35:57] Speaker A: Our voices are very soothing, relaxing. All right, bye. Bye.